Friendships, Contact Cards and Personal Notes In The Profile

6 Sep

Tiana made me thinking about friendship offers.

i just had another friendship invite today by a blogger, which this time again hasnt even talked to me in the first place, so this time again i have no freakkin idea why this blogger would be interested in having a quick link to me. and honestly i dont get it. everyone knows how much i hate that and everyone says noobies are stupid for doing it.

Actually, I understand when a noob offers a friendship. Noob's f/list is not populated as yours or mine and they don't know the feeling of blue square popping up in down right corner every minute. They don't know it yet. Beside that, noobs still don't have a clue how many residents they will meet in the next month.

I accept their offers. Especially if they honestly say they might need some help in the near future and ask if they may contact me. I do fill the notes tab in their profile though, saying noob and maybe something that could remind me who that person is. (Yes, I know I am one of the few that do that, but that field is very useful.) Some of them contact me, most of them don't.

Recently I started a practice of deleting people from my friends list. We had a discussion about that somewhere in the blogosphere a month or so ago. And many of us had the bad feelings about that. Myself included. But, after a bit of thinking, it turns up like a right thing to do. I don't feel it like "I don't want to hear from you ever again." I just don't want to be notified each time you log in or out. I don't want a clutter in my list too. Especially with the names of people I don't have a slightest idea who they are. They have my card in their inventories. I have theirs. Call me when you feel like it

Which leads us to that magic thing: contact cards. Do you use them? Maybe it is a bad thing in user interface that cards are in second layer of the pie menu. You have to right-click, then click more, then click give card. Maybe that is too much clicks for lazy SLers like we are. But cards are useful. Just as that last tab in profile is. And I miss the option of requesting a Contact Card. If I want to have one I need to ask you for that, then probably to tell you how to give it to me and to guide you thorough all those clicks. Too much. It would hurt nobody to have an option to just take a card from the resident. Even without consent, just notification that somebody took your card.

Other thing on my wishlist is implementing folders in f/list. Dammit, every instant messenger worth trying have a feature of organizing your contact in folders or groups. One for close friends, one for business partners, for ex-lovers, stalkers, unknown people, whatever. It just need to inherit the folder structure of Contact Cards folder and to show it in the f/list.

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6 Responses for "Friendships, Contact Cards and Personal Notes In The Profile"

Timothy Lilliehook September 6th, 2007 at 5:26 pm 1
I totally second the wish for folders in friendlist, especially for the “stalker” folder ;-)

Oh, and you are not the only one using the Notes tab on profiles. I did that intensely during my first months on SL, but have to admit that I was a bit lazy about it lately. But I should really get back to it, as I sometimes lose track of the facts people told me about themselves.

Concerning the deletion of people from friendlist, I do it, too. Not regularly, but from time to time. And usually I first set people to “not able to see me”, then remove them after a while if they didnt contact me and I didnt have the need to contact them as well.
tiana meriman September 6th, 2007 at 6:04 pm 2
i use the notes too for most people, usually i just copy paste pieces of conversation that has info that i want to remember.

and i do forgive newbies of sending random friendship invites. they dont know any better but from bloggers or anyone else experienced. i have a hard time accepting it. i really feel they should know better.

i really prefer calling cards in most case but everytime i asked for one i get argumenting or a friendship invite. so i just accept it and delete them the minute they log off. that way i have there card which is what i wanted in the first place.

and i so agree about folders in the friends list and honestly they should change the name of it to contact list.
dandellion September 6th, 2007 at 6:14 pm 3
Thank you both, now I know I am not the only one populating other resident’s profiles. At one moment I thought of myself as KGB freelancer :)
Yes, actually renamingf/list into contact list would do so much. And I’ll use the trick of copypasting bits of chatlogs.
Seraphine September 6th, 2007 at 6:21 pm 4
I used to be real picky with my friend’s list. Now I don’t stress over it too much, and enjoy the fact that I have friends, and I leave an occasional note in their profile tab to remember the passers by.. I don’t use contact cards. I’d be much more likely to modify or delete my notecards and landmarks than my friends list…
Vint Falken September 7th, 2007 at 1:26 pm 5
I agree on the friend lists needs folders. I add a lot of people to the friendlist for easiness of seeing when they are online. They are not friends, but contacts. Wish I could seperate the two and still keep the friendlist’s functionality on them.
Eidur September 7th, 2007 at 1:28 pm 6
In this virtual world we communicate with words. So much more than in RL, I like to “weight” the words I use. I don’t like to call a “friend” a person I’ve never met before who suddenly gives me a f/offer. With men (yes I have lots of fan - lol) I usually ask them to send me a card or type down my name on paper (literally) so that they can send me an IM to contact me every now and then if they feel to. Usually ppl who do that, share a “true” interest toward my person because most of them are looking for sex and they easily switch to the next target as I make some “difficulties”.
I try to be very picky but I like to be guided my “feelings” or “sensitivity” and I strongly believe that the way we “work” on our avatar’s look tells a lot about us. I like to try and have a RL approach. Yes it’s true, every one of us looks astounding and beautiful but few works over details. And details tells a lot about us. So, if you’re very detailed… well, I will accept your f/offer or send one to you.
Maybe :P