Comments on: Intimate and Anonymous

By: dandellion

dandellion — Sat, 28 Jul 2007 10:19:11 +0000

Oh, I can say I am from India, my English is just that bad and rare are those that understand swahilli so I can mummble whatever I want. :)

you comment this, then that; talk about where you live in general ways, then about your work, your family… some things that happens on RL can be traced by it’s date, even googled, and then connected to one particular woman. Scary.

Yes, it is scary. But then, avatars would be quite poor beings without their humans’ stories behind. No personal histories older than a year or two, no 24 hours days to live, living in the perfect world with a little drama maybe. Poor beings would be boring as hell if there wasn’t their humans to spice things up.

By: London Spengler

London Spengler — Sat, 28 Jul 2007 09:42:40 +0000

Reading Eidur comment, I noticed I crossed the line.

Yes, I’ve always being carefull not to mention private things from people who didn’t give me their permission (ok, maybe a little hint sometimes); but I misstepped without noticing, with my husband. that “one of five”. We have joked about it some times, but it still is a tender spot for me, and I brought it without thinking…

So, I don’t worry too much about my RL info traveling to SL, unless it brings my SL back to RL; there are things on my blog that maked me worry about the consecuences, but this is the first time I feel really ashamend.

By: Eidur

Eidur — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 23:02:16 +0000

“Being intimate and being anonymous can go hand in hand”
Yes, but the question it’s not if it’s right or wrong to do it but if the people involved think the same about this. Intimacy, as the right to privacy bear degrees so differents from one person to another.
It would spoil romance asking “before” about what do you think on this and usually it would be preferrable to try to understand your “flirt” before you get involved.
The other issue that comes to my mind, is that we all have a “grade of trackability” on the internet. I would start from there to protect my anonymousity and privacy. Google your SL name, do you find something that recalls to any personal infos? If the answer is “yes” then you can quit worrying about your annymousity, sooner or later someone, a lover, a curious friend, a stalker, will grab that infos and will bring them into your SL. I hope it won’t be too painful, honestly.

By: London Spengler

London Spengler — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 18:35:37 +0000

*smiles* A sweet post (I think :-p).

I doubt you whould pass as coming from India since somebody could ask you to talk in… wait, wasn’t it me who doesn’t like to use voice or talk in spanish because it breaks the magic? Maybe you whould, after all :-p.

Yes, there is always the possibility of people faking their virtuality; there are probably two or three persons at SL I whould put my hand on the fire about their identity, and knowing I could end in intensive care anyway.

But giving away made up things as intimate facts? Yes, it still could tell about the person who does, about it’s feelings, but the magnitude of the lies whould make things really difficult with time; when you get intimate with your loved ones you need a real good excuse to stop, and if you don’t you are going to pile lie after lie, and it will crumble sooner or later. A recipe for disaster.

Ah, and about you don’t being our mom… the first time I comed to SL I stepped the line and gived too much personal information but, luckily, nothing happened. With the blog I am carefull, in a way, and I play with the idea that very little of my friends and family speak english to the point of seeing me in it (of course, if my husband read it I’m licked; only the “one of five” phrase is a good enough motive to kill me :-p).

But, while thinking about some RL issues I’ve been having this week, I noticed that if Nat gived a true effort to it, she whould probably be able to ubicate my RL self.

It happended as you say; you comment this, then that; talk about where you live in general ways, then about your work, your family… some things that happens on RL can be traced by it’s date, even googled, and then connected to one particular woman. Scary.

Not scary about her, because she has all my confidence, but simply the possibility. A holiday at Spain, the blog revealed and associated with somebody who truly exists. Scary.

And still, I cannot stop :-p. I keep balance the risks with the, well, the life it gives to me. I keep thinking that it will not happen, and thinking about ways to deny what is written if discovered…

One of five. I am so “f”ed :-).