One would expect that in a dream-world like second life is, everything is perfect. Ok, teleports are out of order sometimes and lag can stop your dancing on a perfect party but, you don’t live on an oceanfront just if you don’t want to, weather is always great, most of the people are nice and friendly, sex is great… Wait! Yes, sex can be great, but that doesn’t mean there are no problems with it.
I don’t know if a bat of a batterfly’s wings can cause a hurricane on the other side of the planet, but myself getting wet definitely causes somebody having a problem with nVidia card or proprietary drivers on the other side of the grid. The same minute something hot starts to happen in my second life, Linux Client Users group is starting to talk. Every time! And, that group, however useful and friendly, doesn’t stop their chat easily. No, they will go on and on, they will start a distro war if they need. As soon as things cool down and I find myself in a cuddling ball, linux users, one by one will leave the chat. If I was a bit more of a geek than I am, it might be an additional turn on, all those shell commands, compiling, version numbers and stuff. But I am not. I can only hope that, one day, somebody at Linden Lab will find out that muting a group is a feature worth implementing.
Few days ago Veyron asked about cybersex in non-native language:
Anyway, is this a serious problem in Second Life? I mean, are we not getting enough SLex because language is holding us back?
I can’t say that it really holds us back, but it can be a problem. In those sensitive moments one can often miss a word or expression. All those body parts can hide away just a second before you are about to reach them. And then, what can you do then to skip the whole action and get back to something you are more familiar with. But, we all know, good sex is about variations and experimentation. Not having the right words in the right moment is like having the body a bit stiff. And that is not good at all.
And then, I cannot do it in any other language. My human and I have different mother tongues. I know that is the weird situation but that doesn’t help much. I could try doing it in the other language, but then it is not me. And, I am not sure about stepping over that line of privacy. It would make body more relaxed but, would I be so daring in my human’s native language?
There is one more thing that is not quite a problem but goes with this. I’ll leave it for tomorrow. Until then, open up your souls and confess: how’s your sex life going on the laggy grid?
My only cyber experience in my mother language was the worst of all, no doubt about that.
But I agree, stick to your partners or change him/her every night you’ll always want to experiment, or simply “change” your approach and yes, I really *do* need a “love dictionary”.
I’m starting to have some “difficulties” and I don’t like to switch to my browser to search the translation of a word in those very moment!
Btw, that pictures deserves a pulitzer prize :P
LOL, thanks.
Oh, how I wish we could mute groups! I have the same problem!
Otherwise, the grid hasn’t really affected me. But summer colds, overwork, life angst, job changes? That’s the downside of polyamory- even in SL, everybody’s sick, stressed or in crisis on the same cycle!
Things are looking up on the health/angst front, but not so good on the time management side. Such is life….
And, I’d say that you’re absolutely right – breaking from digital-you’s native language would be wrenching to all the personalities. Besides, even for those of us doing it in our own languages who don’t have a lot of experience cybering, there’s the same need to learn to vary and expand your vocabulary!
Experienced lovers are a *big* help (*waves at Ali Hermes*), and seeing different people’s styles and favorite words. But it’s a constant learning process for me as well!
I just have to say, I LOVE that picture. :)
Well, i use to cyber in a different language then my native one. And well, works quite good, specially if i use voice (what i do with my cyber-partner right now).
In text, well, sometimes i just can understand what means exactly what they are saying are doing to me, but i can imagine it, well, cyber is imagination.
With voice, actually is better, lol, my voice is quite deep, and i have a strong Spanish accent, all that together is something some people (at least my SLex partners) found extremely sexy. ;-)
Dale, that pic is a story itself :)
Raul, deep voice + Spanish accent… you don’t have to be understood :D