People will start drama over anything. It really doesn't matter if it's stolen boyfriend, creations that look similar, somebody's way of life, branches of a prim tree going over the parcel line. Drama can be made up of anything. What matters is that they need to get their private sitcom going. Question is whether you want to play a role in that sitcom.
And when I say "want to play" I don't mean whether you want to tell what that boy feels about you, or that creations are significantly different, or to protect your freedom to live the way that you will, or to state that the tree is protecting you from viewing the ugly neighbour's building. It's the question if you want to have anything with somebody else's sitcom.
Because, it's not about boys, girls, creativity, lifestyles or trees. It's about drama itself. Some people are just bored if there is no drama around. It's their brain food. It's your reactions and emotions that feeds them, whether they are aware of it or not. And they will provoke your reactions and suck your emotions as long as you have any. Then, they'll have to leave searching for an another victim. Emotion parasites or vampyrism would be the right expressions.
Don't forget that it's an infectious thing. Before you know, you are in the game, you are addicted to drama, to yours and other people's reactions and emotions. You want to listen about it, you want to participate. You need your daily dose. And you won't even know that you are. Not until it's almost too late.
But it's never too late. Just cut the crap you don't need in your life. Turn off and leave. Leave the parasites in their smelly pits. Yup, this might take some strength. First and the only rule: whatever is on the table, leave it. Whether it's your reputation, that stolen boyfriend's love, money or whatever, it's only a mean to keep you in the game and take even more from you. So run for your life and don't turn back. Be sure that's the only way to keep what you have.
A case of exceptional danger is a friend's drama. Infected friend can drag you into their own affaires. And you'll be tempted to jump in, it's your friend and maybe it's not them that wants that drama, they've been dragged into it. Well, I can only repeat: Run away! Now! It's not friendship messing you into some pointless drama, sucking your feelings, nerves and time. If you want to save a friend try to keep them away from drama. By any means don't jump in. Do your best to help them out, to cut their connection to infected events. Make some firm ground for them, give them shelter to heal, but don't participate. If they don't feel like giving up, leave them. Save yourself. Two victims are not better than one.
Stay firm. If that means to be rude or impolite… well life is rough sometimes. If you have to stop answering IM's, avoiding some places, muting people… do it. There is no "just one more time" excuse. Make a clean cut. Now. Go live happily.
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