Alicia Chenaux started this train of thoughts asking why the guys in second life are (almost) always going after blinging bimbos with oiled skins, big boobs and short skirts. Answer seems to be easy, those guys are after quick cybersex, the version of it that relies more on pixels and animations than on exchange of ideas and phantasies. And so are bimbos with oiled skins. And they are communicating that message very well. But there is the rest of us, so where is the problem?
Problem is in the numbers. Alex Burgess did a nice mixture of guessing and statistics of Second Life user base. Start with number of regular users, then cut away those that you never meet due to the time zones. Then cut the species and sex you’re not interested in, then all that are not around your age, those that are into quick sex with bimbos, those that are not into any kind of virtual sex nor relationships….. you got the point. And you got that sad picture of a small pool you have to catch your pray from. And in that small pool you have to find somebody that you actually do like. Mutually! Well, good luck with that.
But, before you start sitting near that pond and losing your time, maybe we should do one not-so-pleasant-but-beneficial thing. Let’s be honest to ourselves. What do you really want?
If you tell that you want to meet person on the grid and translate that relationship in the meatspace, I’ll rest my case. But, please, be aware of those numbers Alex went through. And, please, be aware that these worlds differ. They differ a lot! I know that people meet via Internet and have great working relationships. I know it first hand. And I know that happens in second life as well. But those examples are sparkling in the night sky not because they are common, but because they are so rare. It takes more than a nice avatar, good chat and even luck to find yourself in such a story.
But I know most of you won’t tell they are after trans-world miraculous love story. So, what are you after? Intimacy, emotional cuddling, phantasy sharing, intelligent conversation, laugh? All of that probably. All of that in the right measure and each fading into the other. No flesh, just thoughts, words, ideas. Great! That is what this world offers, after all. All the rest are shiny pixels and prerecorded sounds. But I have another question to ask you.
Why are you not communicating your game as well as bimbos do? When was the last time you said it loud and clear what you want of your life? And how often you do that? Do you expect people around to guess what you want?
As a consequence we see trashing of those girls with big boobs like they are guilty because you don’t get your share of the pie. And we see trashing of boys because they cannot find their way into decyphering your wishes. But those girls have nothing to do with your life. They are living their own lives, having their own fun. And boys? Well, if we are talking about relationships based on intelligent conversation, you’re guilty of not making the first step just as they are.
So please, stop waiting and thinking what’s wrong. Learn from those bimbos, state your wishes and start living your dreams. In both lives!
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