Comments on: Leaving Second Life

By: dandellion

dandellion — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 11:41:53 +0000

I am not a relationship counselor, but it seems that your relationship has more problems than second life. Maybe you whould talk seriously with your partner about it all?

By: Concerned

Concerned — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 07:52:09 +0000

Second Life is ruining my relationship. I have been in the relationship with the same guy for almost six years. We are a gay couple. he found second life and is now a sex slave in order to get the nice virtual clothing. It is like an egyptian harem of sorts but even worse. He talks sexual he has even told his “masters” he loves them. he tells me to not worry he can determine the difference between sl and rl. he normally ignores me anyways for the most part but now he is ignoring me even more and it hurts. I dont want to leave him as I know I have been with him so long I cant take care of myself on my own. I do love him and I just want him back. Originally he had a porno addiction that stopped for a few months then he went back to porno now I have to contend with porno and second life for his attention. He says he pays attention to me while playing but really just saying two or three words when I ask a question isnt really paying attention is it? If i were a stronger person i would wait until he goes to work and just pack my bags and leave no matter how much I love him just to see if he would come for me. Thing is i have no where to go no friends no relatives that care enough for me because of who i am. I am scared.

By: Envi Teardrop

Envi Teardrop — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 09:21:35 +0000

everyone,

I’m 12 days old, what do I care? :)
although it is a bit disturbing hearing that from you elderly folk.
I already have friends it will be hard saying goodbye to.

The other day I was riding my bike (no deathwish, just a hint of it) and I thought about my friends in SL and how they will never know that I died in a bike crash.

So am I crazy? Am I taking it too seriously? Should I treat SL as a ‘game’?
Well I won’t anyway, It doesn’t seem right to me. Behind each av there’s a real person out there. There is no ‘game’ about it.
The only thing left to do is sorting out the players from the true SLs, and doing that without falling into bitter instant profiling.
My first insight when I got here still remains. I never dismiss a person too quickly, forget the av, check out the mind, you can always take her (or him. babe u can:) shopping later.

By: dandellion

dandellion — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 11:29:50 +0000

I am glad to hear that :)
It’s a lovable little bugger, the second life. It easily gets under our skins.

By: Arabesque Baroque

Arabesque Baroque — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 11:21:01 +0000

I often feel more than a little guilty that I spend too much time in SL. There is really not enough time for both but I have grown genuinely fond of it. It has meaning for my life right now and your post has helped me realise I just have to try and enjoy that while it lasts

By: Seikatsu

Seikatsu — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 05:45:13 +0000

Hey Dandellion,

My post is not as insightful as yours, in fact is very personal, but so it’s my blog. I don’t mind sharing it with you and the World :)

http://seikatsukoba.blogspot.com/2008/08/more-often-than-i-can-count-i-have.html

By: dandellion

dandellion — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 16:57:59 +0000

Thanks for the comment, I am glad you liked the post. Yes, our investments in our second lives is huge, on the other hand it is very rewarding experience. It really makes me happy to hear that so many of us don’t want to lose SL friends even after leaving SL.

And, btw, if you have something written about the subject give us a link.

By: Seikatsu

Seikatsu — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 13:34:51 +0000

I have often thought about ending my Second Life, in fact I wrote about it in my blog, and since I’m here you can deduct that I did not delete my avatar.

What keeps me here are the friendships that I have cultivated, and even if I’m bored and think that I have seen much of SL (not really), everyday my friends bring something new that is worth my spending some time in SL.

This is a good post, with a lot of food for thought. In my humble opinion, at some point we all have to think about our SL, and decide whether or not it’s worth our time.

By: dandellion

dandellion — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 11:17:52 +0000

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts. And a big apologize for being late on my answers.
I’m so glad to ear so much optimism in your answers. It is rare to see something like that for any kind of entertainment software. Usually it is "wearing out" and going to something new that will kill the time.
Eidur, we’ll have to find something new for you to do. We cannot afford to lose you :)

And I haven’t forgot to place TM. Second Life™ is not the only software one can use to live second life.

By: Joan

Joan — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 02:14:14 +0000

Hi Dandelion,

You ask, "Is there a moment when everything is done and we are ready to move in some other form of (non)existence?"

In first life, we call this "death"! Perhaps, like everything else about Second Life’s faster speed, our incarnations in there are shorter than the calendar length of our first life.

It’s also true that in first life, we continually grow, shift focus, discover new things and leave the old behind, grow wiser, try new paths, etc. It makes total sense to me that a similar process occurs in Second Life, only in the virtual world, we can more easily extricate ourselves from it and ignore what we’ve left behind. Not as simple in first life!

Fascinating post — thanks!
Joan