Two of them, on different continents, on the same sim, in poseballs and IM windows… So anonymous to each other, yet being so close and sharing so much. Because sex, even in this funny and weird form called cybersex, is very close and very personal thing two people can do. Let's suppose that this is not their first and surely not the last night. And let's suppose that they are not really interested in their human's data. It is just two of them, avatars.
They know that behind those two good looking avatars can be whoever. Big fat truck driver named Bubu is a usual suspect in many jokes. So let it be. Bubu is actually a lesbian that can twist your mind, make you smiling and laughing, make you wanting her more, take you to the peaks of pleasure.
But there is not enough big fat truck drivers registered in second life so we can safely bet on all the other professions, ages, continents, lifestyles. Clerks, housewives, soldiers, politicians, rock stars, teachers, students… You can take any photo from the pool of millions of Internet users. And many of those, many many of those are probably not somebody you are sexually interested in when you look at that picture. But there are a few whose minds you love with the whole of your heart.
When you strip all the gender, age, race, social class, color of eyes, geography, size of breasts, when it is just you, standing naked on the grid with somebody just stripped as you are… there is something religious or spiritual in realizing how all those people we meet on the streets, all those not attractive strangers are sexual beings with fantasies that flows so good with ours. There is something divine in our naughty thoughts, something very personal but not connected to the person's face. A spark of personality that shines over our smiles no matter how many oceans is between us.
Perfectly written. Thanks for sharing :)
Thanks for reading :)
“But there are a few whose minds you love with the whole of your heart.” I think you’ve got the whole point of cybering here. We share our minds, and then RL gender, age or looks don’t matter at all.
Beautiful post, Dandelion
It was about time someone would write about this. So glad that *you* did.
I don’t really have more to add if not that I am in love with your words.
Is it really that wrong to be in love with someone else’s mind whoever he/she/it is?
Is it really necessary to drag all this love into our first (not real, this virtual love *is* real!) life and destroy everything? If we are really looking for the carnal touch, shouldn’t we move to a more appropriate social networking tool?
Shouldn’t we go out and take some fresh air and meet “flesh” people instead of spending hours in front of a monitor?
I know, it’s not fair, but this is what I think. If you really need to touch your SL partner, maybe it’s time you go out and (i hate to say this, believe me) “get a life”.
Beautiful post, as always.
I think even if I knew an AV’s human was Bubba (or Bubu…so cute!) the trucker I would be able to connect with them provided they were intelligent and tender, but why should I even need to know? If the AV is sincere about who they have made themselves in SL, then they deserve to be treated as a person, not a mask or a character.
Despite being an AV and living mostly in SL, I used to wonder if there was something innately selfish with doing these things with someone else and neither person wanting to get involved in the other’s FL. After much thought, I realized the problem I had with it was that there is the potential for using others to enact your own fantasies without caring about the other person (leaving aside the definition of “person” and whether I mean AV or human or inbetween, I just mean “someone other than yourself”).
Then I realized something important. The true lover here brings out the wishes of their partner, looks into their soul and draws out what they most want to experience, and trusts their partner to do the same for them. It is mutual, it requires trust, and it if beautiful. And, as you say, it’s more a spiritual meeting than a carnal one.
And Eidur, you are *so* right. SL as a platform doesn’t have a specific purpose, but it’s really not the best way for “real” people to make a connection. I think some of them choose it because of the safety factor, which is understandable, but there have got to be better ways to for humans to meet each other than in a place like SL. Get a hobby and meet people with common interests, or go dancing, do something you like and see who else is around – same as AVs do in SL ^_^
Best,
Argent
Ahhh, beautiful and so true, dande, Eidur, Argent – -
Who we are here is who we are – at least for those of us who live here, and aren’t treating it as Vegas/Spring Break. Whether we’re facets of the atomic person or autonomous personalities, we’re, I think, *true* in a way that’s very hard for atomic people to be.
People forget the distinction between real and true: spirits crushed by the atomic world, it’s not to hard to lose the knowledge we all are born with, that truth and beauty enrich us far beyond the merely “real.”
There is beauty in the atomic world, I have to acknowledge: it runs to the stark, the bittersweet, its power in its rarity and its triumph over hardship. But in the digital world, beauty is made from the liberation of our selves, in the sheer exquisite power of who we – truly, not really – are.
There is power in the sex of the real – but gods, the power in the sex of the true!
Give me true love, and lust, and sex, here – and, oh, do I have it. Leave the “real” to the atomic world.
Ah, our Dandellion :-) So much love to give, and thank you for sharing some of it through this story :-) A pleasure to read and remember, thank you.
Thank you all for kind comments.
I agree that Sl is the completely wrong place to search for carnal contact. This world is different than many other services all over the Internet. And though my human is guilty (several times) of finding meatspace partners over the Internet (no, no dating services) there is nothing wrong with bars, clubs, and many other places where humans meet.
And it is not that human relationships doesn’t benefit from avatar’s. Soph and Argent shared two beautiful thoughts, one on truth in us and the other on true lovers. Hopefully those wisdoms will spread through the both worlds.